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by 'Dolph Ward Goldenburg
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On Sunday morning, I hear a light tapping on the front door. Assuming the visitor is a close friend from the wedding party, I throw on some clothes and run downstairs. Surprise. I open the door to a young, skinny white guy with tattoos running up both arms and sunken, dark eyes. At first I think, "Ugh, not this morning," but I am struck by the thought: "Jesus is at my door, I can choose to help or I can shut the door." Since I am not the most Christocentric Friend, I am still surprised at having this thought.
The young man stands in front of my door dripping wet from a rain shower that rumbled through Atlanta several hours before. He quickly explains that his car broke down a few blocks away and asks to use my phone to call his mother. Apologetically, I tell him that I have an overnight guest and offer to call for him while he waits on the porch. I extend my hand to introduce myself and learn that his name is Chris. I also learn that he is bare-bone thin. After reciting his mother's phone number, he begins to cry. He says, "Tell her I'm ready to do right, I want to come home."
Since his mother is not home, I leave a message on her answering machine. I return to the porch to tell the young man that I left a message and say, "You can check back this afternoon to see if she returned the call. At this point, I can make you some breakfast, but that's about all I can do." I feel relieved, knowing that I have done my part and will still make it to an early-morning breakfast with friends from the wedding and then to meeting for worship.
I bring several sandwiches,
fruit, and water to him as he sits on the porch. As I give him breakfast,
he once again chokes up and asks, "Can you call my aunt? I really
need to reach someone. I don't have to wait for her here, I'll wait
on the corner." I figure, in for a penny, in for a pound, and ask
for his aunt's number. I wake his aunt up and explain
that
I don't know her but her nephew is in bad shape
on my front porch. Aunt Betty starts to cry. She confirms my suspicion
that Chris is an addict and says, "We haven't heard from him in
months. I'm coming to get him so don't let him leave." I protest
that Chris wants to meet her on the corner, but she again says,
"Please don't let him leave."
Back on the porch, I
tell Chris that his aunt will meet him at my home and it will
take her about two hours to drive here. I also explain that I need
to check on my houseguest who, with all the commotion, has begun
stirring upstairs. My houseguest is a Baptist from a small Georgia
town. Knowing that she'll understand my predicament, I walk upstairs
and say, "Jesus
Christ came to my door this morning." She looks at me and says,
"Well, all right, is the door open?" I realize that the door is
open and return to talk to Chris, but I wonder if her question had
a double meaning.
hris
and I sit on the porch for the two hours, learning more about each
other. He admits that he is a crack addict. He confesses that he
has at least three warrants for his arrest. He tells me that he
had planned to meet a friend at 9 a.m. outside of Backstreets, a
gay club, and I assume that Chris is also a sex worker. We talk
about addiction and recovery, especially those recovery programs
for people who don't have a lot of money.
As a former social worker, I recommend a few good programs in the area and wonder if he'll actually ever follow up on the recommendations.
At some point, I notice that he's wet and wonder if his aunt knows about the disturbing tattoos on his arm. I run inside and find an old long-sleeve shirt so he can change into something decent and dry.
Like most addicts, he's in denial about the true extent of his addiction. He knows that he needs to turn himself in for the outstanding warrants, but he also wants to go to his parents' home for a few days and relax. He tells me, "I just want to live a normal life for a few days, you know, see a movie with my family." I remind him that he last used drugs less than four hours before and that he'd be shaking and trembling by early afternoon. He falls silent. In the silence, I realize that he might like some coffee, and I brew a few cups for him.
At exactly 10 a.m. Chris says, "I hope you didn't plan to do anything today." Since I am normally settling into meeting for worship by this time, I respond, "I'm usually in church about now, but Jesus came to my door instead." Chris gets this look that says, "Oh no, I'm going to have to believe something before I leave this porch." I just chuckle and reassure him that I won't evangelize to him. I still find it funny that anyone would mistake me for an evangelist.
Finally, his aunt arrives,
and I walk into the house as the tearful reunion begins. After drying
their tears, she comes into the house and thanks me, repeating that
Chris is an addict and stressing that he needs to turn himself in
to the police for his outstanding warrants. I encourage her to remain
strong in her belief that he
should turn himself in, but I
know he will try to convince her
otherwise.
or
several days I didn't know if Chris made
it to jail or if he went back to using drugs and living on the streets
again. Thankfully, his aunt called with a very positive update.
She gave him the chance to run away from the situation by parking
the car at a gas station and going inside for about ten minutes.
To his credit, Chris stayed in the car and voluntarily turned himself
in. Upon reporting to jail, the guards booked him on seven outstanding
warrantsfrom stealing cars to robbery to using stolen credit
cards. After being in jail for a few days, they asked him about
several other crimes, and he admitted his involvement in them as
well. His aunt explained to me that Chris would plead guilty to
all the charges and spend 3 to 15 years in prison.
On a visitation day, his aunt asked him why he chose my house out of all the houses on my street. He saw me come home with my older houseguest the night before and thought that I was probably the only white person living on my street. He planned to rob me when I let him into the house and was surprised that I showed such kindness to him. He also told his aunt that I left my front door open for about three minutes, and he briefly thought about continuing with the planned robbery.
Recently I opened my door to Jesus, but I have never opened my door to a robber. That distinction made all the difference. Our interactions probably didn't change his life, but they helped him make the right choices that day.
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This is a feature article from the
March 2003 issue of Friends Journal.


