{"id":3127255,"date":"2015-11-01T03:25:51","date_gmt":"2015-11-01T08:25:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.friendsjournal.org\/book\/zaidi-ya-wema-ngono\/"},"modified":"2015-11-01T03:25:51","modified_gmt":"2015-11-01T08:25:51","slug":"zaidi-ya-wema-ngono","status":"publish","type":"fpb_book","link":"https:\/\/www.friendsjournal.org\/sw\/book\/zaidi-ya-wema-ngono\/","title":{"rendered":"Zaidi ya Wema Ngono"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3><b><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-3019720\" src=\"https:\/\/www.friendsjournal.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/penn.jpg\" alt=\"kalamu\" width=\"779\" height=\"438\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.friendsjournal.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/penn.jpg 779w, https:\/\/www.friendsjournal.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/penn-300x169.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 779px) 100vw, 779px\" \/>Jibu la Kitabu cha Al Vernacchio<\/b><\/h3>\n<audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-3127255-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"https:\/\/www.friendsjournal.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/Beyond-Goodness-Sex-by-Su-Penn.mp3?_=1\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.friendsjournal.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/Beyond-Goodness-Sex-by-Su-Penn.mp3\">https:\/\/www.friendsjournal.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/Beyond-Goodness-Sex-by-Su-Penn.mp3<\/a><\/audio>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8221;Anza kutoka kwa uaminifu, tegemea uaminifu, na uamini kwamba ngono ni nguvu ya wema.&#8221;<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2014Al Vernacchio, mwalimu wa ujinsia na mwandishi, katika<\/span> <i><br \/>\n  <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Kwa Wema Ngono: Kubadilisha Njia Tunayozungumza na Vijana Kuhusu Ngono, Maadili na Afya<\/span><br \/>\n<\/i><\/p>\n<table width=\"50%\" align=\"right\">\n<tr>\n<td>\n<div class=\"woo-sc-box  normal   \"><strong>Ujumbe wa Wahariri<\/strong><br \/>\n Baada ya kuchapishwa, tulijifunza kuwa &#8221;Beyond Goodness Sex&#8221; (Su Penn, FJ, Nov. 2015) inanukuu vibaya Al Vernacchio na ina makosa kuhusu ni nini na kisichoshirikishwa kwa Ngono ya Wema. Ingawa tofauti hizi binafsi ni ndogo, zikichukuliwa pamoja zinapotosha hoja za Vernacchio na kupuuza mbinu za balagha anazotumia katika kitabu ili kukwepa lugha ya kikanuni na ya kijinsia. Maoni ya wachangiaji wetu ni wao wenyewe, lakini kama wachapishaji tuna wajibu wa kuwakilisha kwa haki mada ya ukaguzi au makala, hasa inapokosolewa. Tunajutia makosa, ambayo yanaharibu hoja za Penn na Vernacchio na kitabu chake.    -Mh.<\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/table>\n<p><span class=\"dropcap\">S<\/span><!--\/.dropcap--> ix watu wanaishi katika nyumba yetu: mimi; mpenzi wangu wa miongo miwili; watoto wetu watatu; na mwenzetu wa nyumbani, mwanafunzi katika chuo chini ya barabara. Angalau watatu kati yetu tunajitambulisha kama watu wa ajabu, ambayo ni kusema kwamba tunaweza kuunda uhusiano wa kimapenzi na\/au wa kimapenzi kwa watu ambao jinsia zao ni sawa na zetu na vile vile au badala ya wale ambao jinsia zao ni tofauti sana na zetu. Angalau watatu kati yetu ni watu waliobadili jinsia au wasiofuata jinsia. Angalau mmoja wetu anajitambulisha kama \u201cAce,\u201d au asiye na jinsia, lakini si \u201cAro\u201d\u2014kumaanisha, si kunukia: yaani, kutopendezwa na shughuli za ngono na watu wengine lakini anayeweza kabisa kupendana. Angalau wawili wetu tunajitambulisha kama kinky, ambayo ni kusema mazoezi ya kujieleza ya ngono ambayo yanajumuisha vipengele vya utawala na uwasilishaji, uchezaji wa hisia ikiwa ni pamoja na kucheza maumivu, na kujizuia. Angalau wawili kati yetu tunatambua kuwa watu wengi, ambayo ni kusema kuwa na uwezo wa kuunda uhusiano wa kimapenzi na\/au wa kingono kwa zaidi ya mtu mmoja kwa wakati mmoja. Angalau mmoja wetu amejaribu kujiua; angalau mtu mwingine ameitafakari kwa umakini. Sisi sote tumekataliwa na familia ya karibu kwa sababu zinazohusiana na ujinsia na usemi wa kijinsia.       <\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-3019721\" src=\"https:\/\/www.friendsjournal.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/fgs.jpg\" alt=\"fgs\" width=\"300\" height=\"439\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.friendsjournal.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/fgs.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.friendsjournal.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/11\/fgs-205x300.jpg 205w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>Al Vernacchio, ambaye amekuwa mwalimu wa masuala ya ngono kwa zaidi ya miaka 20, na ambaye kwa sasa anafundisha somo hilo katika shule ya upili ya Friends, ni shoga aliyeoa mke mmoja. Kitabu chake,   <\/span><i><br \/>\n  <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Kwa Wema Sex<\/span><br \/>\n<\/i> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, ina ukosoaji fasaha wa mtindo wa kawaida wa elimu ya ngono, ambayo anaiita &#8221;mtazamo wa kuzuia maafa&#8221; ambao ujumbe wake mkuu ni kwamba ngono inaweza kukuua au kuharibu maisha yako.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Vernacchio anapendekeza mfano tofauti, ambao ujinsia haujatengwa na maisha yote ya mtu; ambamo hata watoto wachanga zaidi wanaweza kuonekana kama watu wenye ujinsia unaoendelea; ambapo watu wazima wana wajibu wa kushinda usumbufu wao na kukubali vijana wao kama viumbe vya ngono; ambapo majadiliano ya matendo fulani ya ngono ni ya pili kwa kukuza uelewa wa maadili na mahitaji ya mtu mwenyewe. Lengo la Vernacchio lililoelezwa sio kuzalisha vijana ambao watafuata sheria zilizowekwa na watu wazima katika maisha yao. Anachotaka, badala yake, ni hii:  <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">vijana wanaojua maadili yao, wanaojiamini kuwa wanastahili kupendwa, wanaojisikia vizuri juu ya miili yao, wanaoona raha kuwa njia ya kujenga ukaribu na uhusiano na mtu mwingine, na ambao wanaishi maisha yao bila kuogopa makosa bali wanayatumia kama somo la kujipanga upya kuelekea mafanikio.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Vernacchio ni mwenye moyo mkuu, mwenye mawazo, mwenye nia njema, na mwenye upendo wa kweli na heshima kwa wanafunzi wake. Mbinu yake ya elimu ya ngono inaburudisha ikilinganishwa na wengi. Lakini hana uwezo kabisa wa kushughulika na mimi na yangu.  <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Vernacchio ni sahihi, kwa uzoefu wangu, kwamba mtaala wa kawaida unatilia mkazo zaidi hatari za ngono kuliko starehe na zawadi zinazoletwa. Pia inatenga rasilimali zaidi-au-chini kwa uwiano wa idadi ya watu, kama vile kitabu cha Vernacchio: sura kumi kuhusu wavulana na wasichana, na mahusiano kati yao, ikilinganishwa na sura moja inayokubali mvuto wa jinsia moja; Kurasa 150 ambazo zinachukulia jinsia kuwa ni ya kudumu na baiolojia na kurasa mbili pekee zinazowapa ishara ya juu watu wanaovuka mipaka. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ningependa kuona tunagawanya rasilimali zetu sio kulingana na idadi ya watu binafsi tunayotarajia kuwa katika chumba, lakini kulingana na jinsi tunavyoweza kuwalinda vyema walio hatarini zaidi kati yetu. Linapokuja suala la jinsia, kwa mfano, walio hatarini zaidi miongoni mwetu ni watoto wasiozingatia jinsia. Katika miezi michache iliyopita, nimekuwa nikihuzunika kujiua kwa vijana waliovuka mipaka Zander Mahaffey, 15; Leelah Alcorn, 17; Taylor Wells, 18; Ash Hafner, 16; Melonie Rose, 19; na Blake Brockington, 18. Brockington alitangaza habari hiyo mnamo Februari 2014 kwa kuwa mfalme wa kwanza wa shule ya upili aliyepita kwa uwazi, na tena mwaka huu baada ya kujitoa uhai mnamo Machi 23. Vijana waliobadili jinsia na wasiozingatia jinsia hubeba hatari ya kutisha ya kujidhuru, ukosefu wa makazi, ubakaji, na unyanyasaji wa familia na wageni. Asilimia 41 ya vijana waliovuka mipaka ambao wamejaribu kujiua wanastahili bora kuliko aya inayosema kwamba ni sawa kubainisha jinsia. Lakini hiyo ndiyo yote ambayo Vernacchio huwapa. Anasema, &#8221;Ninajivunia kufanya kazi shuleni na kuishi katika jumuiya ambayo iko wazi kwa majadiliano haya.&#8221; Kiburi chake kilinigusa kama chuki na isiyo na ujuzi, kwa kuzingatia hali ya juu juu ambayo alitupilia mbali mada hiyo.        <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Vijana waliobadili jinsia na lahaja za kijinsia wanastahili mtaala unaowaunganisha kikamilifu, unaowaweka mbele na katikati pamoja na wenzao wa cisgender. Hii inamaanisha kujifunza jinsi ya kutumia lugha ambayo ina uwezekano wa wazi, kuzungumza, kwa mfano, &#8221;watu wanaowasilisha uke&#8221; badala ya &#8221;wasichana&#8221; wakati wa kujadili jinsi ya kuvinjari vivutio na hatari za kuvaa nguo zinazoonyesha mwili. Inamaanisha kutambua kwamba biolojia haiwezi kudhaniwa kutoka kwa jinsia, kwamba kusema &#8221;mvulana&#8221; haimaanishi kuwa na uume kila wakati, na &#8221;msichana&#8221; haimaanishi kuwa na uke na uke kila wakati. Watu waliobadili jinsia si wa kawaida; tunaweza kutumia karibu muda wetu wote kuzungumza na chumba cha wavulana walio na uume na wasichana wenye vulvas. Lakini ni kazi yetu kutengeneza nafasi kwa mvulana ambaye ana uke na uke; kumleta chumbani hata kama hayupo kimwili, kushikilia nafasi hiyo wazi; na kuwakumbusha wale watoto wote wa cisgender, na sisi wenyewe, kwamba mvulana huyo yupo. Ni kazi yetu pia kumkaribisha mvulana huyo anapokuwa       <\/span><i><br \/>\n  <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">yupo<\/span><br \/>\n<\/i> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, iwe tunajua yupo au la.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ni kazi yetu, pia, kufanya uwezekano wa kijana huyo kuwa ukweli kwa wanafunzi wa cisgender katika chumba. Kama vile tunapofundisha ridhaa hai, hatujaribu tu kuwazuia wanafunzi wetu kuwa waathiriwa wa unyanyasaji wa kingono au kijinsia; tunajaribu kuwalinda, pia, wasiwe wahalifu. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hii inamaanisha kufanya zaidi ya kushughulikia sentensi au aya kuhusu jinsi utambulisho wa kijinsia wa wachache ni A-Sawa. Inamaanisha kukumbuka, daima, uwezekano kwamba hivi sasa, katika chumba hiki, kati ya kundi hili la vijana, ni wale wanaohitaji kusikia, kwa uwazi, kwamba wanajumuishwa na kuwakaribisha. Na ina maana kukumbuka, daima, kwamba sisi    <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">kujua<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">  kuna vijana chumbani hivi sasa wanaohitaji kutusikia tunakaribisha uwezekano huo. Kukosekana kwa ujumuishaji wa wazi, tunahatarisha usikilizaji wa chumba kizima badala yake kwamba miili ya mabadiliko imepotoka na ina kasoro. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ningependa kukukumbusha kuwa familia yangu inajumuisha watu ambao ni wapenzi, wapenzi wa aina nyingi, waliobadili jinsia, na wasiopenda ngono. Hili huniruhusu kuzungumza kwa mamlaka ninaposema kwamba kila shule ya upili ina vijana ambao ni, au siku moja watajigundua kuwa, wakorofi, wapenzi wengi, waliobadili jinsia, na\/au wasiopenda ngono. Huenda ikawa vigumu kwa baadhi ya watu kukubali, lakini ni ukweli. Kuna vijana ambao kufikia umri wa miaka 12, 13, 14, 15\u2014kila wanapoanza kujifikiria wenyewe kama viumbe vya ngono\u2014tayari wanatamani kujua; kuvutiwa na; au kufanya majaribio na (peke yako au na wengine) shughuli hizi, utambulisho, na aina za uhusiano.   <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Watoto hawa wanahitaji vitu sawa na watoto wote wanavyohitaji wanapojifunza kuhusu ujinsia wao: vielelezo; washauri wanaoaminika wanaweza kuzungumza nao kwa uaminifu; habari kuhusu usalama wa kihisia, usalama wa kimwili, na mahusiano yenye afya; mwongozo wa jinsi ya kuweka na kuheshimu mipaka; na uhakikisho kwamba kujamiiana kwao sio aibu.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sipendekezi kuwa kila mtaala wa ngono unahitaji kujumuisha kwa uwazi yaliyomo kwenye kink au kupitia mahusiano mengi, ingawa kuna baadhi ya vitabu na tovuti zinazofanya hivyo. Nini mimi   <\/span><i><br \/>\n  <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ninachosema<\/span><br \/>\n<\/i> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ni kwamba waelimishaji wa masuala ya kujamiiana kama Vernacchio wanahitaji kufanya kazi bora zaidi ya yafuatayo:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">kuchunguza kwa ukali imani zao wenyewe ili kuepuka kupitisha maoni ya kibinafsi kama ukweli<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">kutambua ujinga wao wenyewe, na kutafuta na kuahirisha wale walio na uzoefu na ujuzi inapohitajika.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">kukosea, wakati hakuna uhakika, kwa upande wa kukubalika na kujumuishwa<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">kutambua kwamba hisia za kibinafsi za usumbufu au kuchukizwa sio msingi wa kutosha wa kutoa hukumu zisizofaa.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">kukumbuka, siku zote, kwamba maamuzi yenye afya kuhusu ngono na mapenzi hayawezi kufanywa mbele ya aibu, na kwa hiyo kuepuka kwa gharama yoyote lugha yoyote ambayo inaaibisha watu kwa uwazi au kwa udhahiri kwa tamaa zao, mapenzi, au shughuli za maelewano.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Vernacchio anaamini kuwa anafanya angalau baadhi ya mambo haya. Amekosea. Ngoja nikupe mfano. Wakati fulani, anaandika, &#8221;mojawapo ya ufafanuzi bora zaidi wa upendo ninaojua&#8221; ni &#8221;rafiki bora + hamu ya ngono.&#8221; Ufafanuzi huu hauakisi uzoefu wa familia yangu. Ni       <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">wetu<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">  uzoefu kwamba kile mtu anahisi kwa rafiki bora na kile mtu anahisi wakati &#8221;katika upendo&#8221; si sawa, hata kuweka kando swali la ngono. Pia ni uzoefu wetu kwamba tamaa ya ngono sio sifa inayobainisha kati ya urafiki na upendo wa kimapenzi. Inawezaje kuwa, wakati angalau wawili wetu wana uzoefu wa kuwa katika upendo ambao haukujumuisha sehemu ya mvuto wa ngono? &#8221;Rafiki bora + hamu ya ngono&#8221; ni ufafanuzi unaohusiana wazi na Vernacchio. Lakini anapoidhinisha ufafanuzi huu wa upendo, anawaambia wanafunzi wake ambao ni Ace, au watakuja kujielewa kama Ace, kwamba ukosefu wao wa hamu ya ngono kwa watu wengine inamaanisha hawawezi kupenda; anawaambia wanafunzi wake wanaofanya ngono kwamba mtu ambaye hajavutiwa nao kimapenzi hawapendi. Marafiki zangu wasio na mapenzi na ngono katika mahusiano ya mielekeo mtambuka wangeomba kutofautiana.     <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Upendo wa kimapenzi ni nini bila mvuto wa ngono? Hilo ni swali gumu ambalo halitoi majibu ya uchungu\u2014kwamba lipo, ingawa, halina ubishi. Kudai vinginevyo ni kutowajibika. Kudai vinginevyo kuna uwezo wa kufanya madhara makubwa kwa watu walio katika mazingira magumu.   <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Vile vile, Vernacchio anakanusha uwezekano wa kuwa katika upendo na zaidi ya mtu mmoja kwa wakati mmoja, akipendekeza kuvutiwa, kupendezwa, na tamaa kama njia mbadala zinazowezekana. Anapendekeza kwamba watu wanaojiwazia katika mapenzi bila mvuto wa kingono wanavutiwa, wanajali sana, au ibada ya shujaa ni kali sana hivi kwamba haiwezekani kuwazia kitu kama kiumbe cha ngono hata kidogo. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Amekosea. Tena na tena, amekosea. Je, inawezekana kuwa katika upendo na zaidi ya mtu mmoja kwa wakati mmoja?   Ndiyo. Je, inawezekana kuwa katika upendo bila mvuto wa ngono? Ndiyo. Je, ni sawa kupenda kutoa au kupokea hickeys? Ndiyo, kwa ajili ya mbinguni, ndiyo, ingawa Vernacchio ana shaka. Hakika anaruhusiwa kutopenda kutoa au kupokea hickeys. Lakini ni matumizi mabaya ya madaraka kuwaambia wanafunzi nini     <\/span><i><br \/>\n  <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">wanaruhusiwa<\/span><br \/>\n<\/i> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">kupenda na kutopenda.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Kama wazazi, kama waelimishaji, kama Quakers, tumeitwa kufanya unyenyekevu. Inatakiwa kwetu. Ni wajibu uliowekwa juu yetu na Mungu. Vernacchio angefanya vyema zaidi kukiri kile ambacho hakujua na kuwasaidia wanafunzi wake kutafuta watu wenye uzoefu wa mambo wanayotamani kujua. Mwanafunzi anapouliza ikiwa inawezekana kupenda zaidi ya mtu mmoja, anaweza kusema hivi: \u201cNikiwa mwanamume mwenye ndoa ya mke mmoja, huenda nisiwe mtu bora wa kujibu swali hili.\u201d Kwa nini hatuoni yale ambayo watu ambao wamekuwa wakipenda zaidi ya mtu mmoja kwa wakati mmoja wanasema? Je, unaweza kuwa katika upendo bila mvuto wa ngono, mwanafunzi mwingine anashangaa. Huenda Vernacchio alijibu hivi: \u201cMvuto wa kingono na mapenzi ya kimahaba sikuzote yamekuwa yakishikamana kwa ajili yangu, lakini najua hiyo si kweli kwa baadhi ya watu. Hebu tuone ikiwa yeyote kati yao ameandika kuhusu tukio hilo.\u201d      <\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Kwa Wema Ngono<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">  ni kitabu kizuri sana cha kiliberali kinachoendelea juu ya elimu ya kujamiiana. Kama vile waliberali wengi wanaoendelea, Vernacchio anaamini kuwa anawahimiza vijana kuchunguza maadili yao wenyewe, lakini badala yake, anawaelekeza kwa uangalifu kuelekea kuiga maadili yake. Anapendelea mtazamo finyu sana, wa kushangaza wa kihafidhina wa ngono na mahusiano. Labda inaonekana kuwa si haki kuhakiki kitabu chake kwa mtazamo mkali kama wangu, lakini vijana wetu walio katika mazingira magumu zaidi hawahitaji elimu ya kuendelea ya ujinsia huria; wanahitaji radical. Afya yao ya akili inategemea hii. Afya na usalama wao wa kihisia na kimwili hutegemea. Mimi si kuwa wa kushangaza sana ninaposema kwamba, wakati mwingine, maisha yao yanategemea hilo.      <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":3076802,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","categories":[9822,9950],"fpb_issue_category":[10212],"class_list":["post-3127255","fpb_book","type-fpb_book","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vipengele","category-vitabu-vya-novemba-2015","fpb_issue_category-novemba-2015-vitabu-na-utamaduni-wa-pop"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.8 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>Zaidi ya Wema Ngono - Friends Journal<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Anza kutoka kwa uaminifu, tegemea uaminifu, na uamini kwamba kujamiiana ni nguvu ya wema.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"noindex, follow\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"sw_KE\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Zaidi ya Wema Ngono - 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