Fighting over Money

Have you noticed that most fights involve triangles—two people or groups and a sticky issue? The sticky issue is often money. Couples, even countries, fight over you, me, and money. I tell people that triangulation is strangulation. Between two individuals, interactions are simple: you to me, and me to you. Just two things are happening. But add a third party to the transaction—in this case, an “it”—and there are ten things happening at once—five times as much as with two parties. It’s like jumping onto a fast‐moving merry‐go‐round. Instantly, everything becomes a blur🔒

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Ron McDonald, a member of Memphis (Tenn.) Meeting, is a pastoral counselor and the author of a new book, The Spirituality of Community Life: When We Come 'Round Right.

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